A lot of families after losing someone have stated they will try and forgive as holding onto the hurt and bitterness will only tear them apart. It must be incredibly difficult tho. Thankfully i've never been in that position and never want to be, its too easy for me to sit here typing i'd do this or that, I don't have a clue. Each person handles it differently, even differently to how I, you, we or loved ones might think they would based on everything they have said, believed in and lived by for their entire lives.